Before I go for the walk on ice...

Breakfast (Dejeuner du matin)

He put the coffee in the cup
he put the milk in the cup of coffee
he put the sugar in the milky coffee
with the coffee spoon he stirred it
he drank the milky coffee
he put the cup down without speaking to me
he lit a cigarette
he made rings with the smoke
he put the ash in the ash tray
without speaking to me
without looking at me
he got up
he put his hat on his head
he put on his raincoat because it was raining
and he went off in the rain
without a word
without looking at me
and I held my head in my hands and I wept.


Letting yourself develop and fantasize about the future with a person increases attachment and anxiety about the expectations or plans not coming true. Any little event that makes the plan seem likely makes you feel elated; any event that makes it seem unlikely makes you feel devastated. You can get on an emotional roller-coaster, dependent upon these little signs of success or failure in the relationship. You may then drive the person away by being too emotional or needy.